Why success starts with your ability to believe in you!
By Jessica Tha Goddess – January 20, 2021
What is that thing you always wanted to do; that career you always wanted to have, that business you always wanted to start, that body you always wanted to sport? What is that thing you desire so badly you can taste it – but tell yourself you could never have it?
I want you to name that thing.
Now, I want you to go get that thing!
Crazy? Not at all. You can do this; all you need is to Back Yourself!
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“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams”
Eleanor Roosevelt
How I Learned to Back Myself
I have a gift for seeing the best in others. I can see their gems, help them identify their dreams, and create a success strategy that will change their lives. It’s a talent I appreciate having. I understand that I also need to use my gifts for me.
For years I did not back myself. Once I realized that, everything started to make sense.
It’s as if I was like a bed and breakfast stop for excited travelers about to view the world’s most beautiful spots. I was cheery, helpful, and provided exactly what they needed. Then I sent them off to see the great wonders of the world…while I stayed at the B&B and served the next customer.
I wondered why I was stuck in this rut. I loved helping others, but obviously, I wanted to see the world too. After a while, I became tired of being shackled to the metaphoric B&B. I wanted out!
My Secret to Success
I learned that the missing piece to me living my best life, and becoming my best-self, was that I needed to back myself.
When I was younger I believed I could do anything – qualified or not. I have had several career adventures because of this belief. So far these adventures have included Business Consulting, Corporate Training, Life Coaching, and Teaching High-School. I have also been a Communications Specialist, Public Servant, Fundraiser, Event Planner, Recreation Supervisor, HR Professional, Talent Agent, Music Manager, Media Relations Specialist, Dickie Dee Sales Person (okay that one only lasted a day with my best friend Stacey; do you know how hard it is to ride those bikes), and Traffic Operations Manager. I have even been a Hostess, Receptionist, Erectile Disfunction Support Agent, Casting Director, Executive Director, Community Development Officer, Business Development Liaison, Community Greeter and the list grows on. New experiences and adding value are two things I really love new experiences. Then, I knew how to back myself – and get others to back me too.
Be Ware of Haters and Doubters – They Can Crush Your Dreams & Steal Your Gems!
Then, I started to allow others to tell me what I was worth. I didn’t even know that it was happening. I was caught up in making other people happy. Bit by bit people started taking too much, wanting too much, or just wanting to keep me ‘in my place’ to ensure I continued to serve them and their needs.
Others just thought my dreams were too big. Theses ‘doubters’ said and did things that re-enforced my own self-doubt and made my inner-critic louder.
I do not blame those people, they are only human, and may not even know what they were doing.
Become Self Aware
I learned that self-awareness is a big part of backing yourself. When you are self-aware you feel when someone is having a negative impact on you. Then, you can either address it head-on and allow them to correct themselves, or you can move yourself out of the line of fire. You must protect your mind, your peace, and your thoughts – so that you are strong, and free to back yourself.
The impact of ‘haters’ and ‘doubters’ can take a toll. I now understand how important it is for me to double down on backing myself.
I set out to be a self-backer. You should do the same! I know my worth and my capabilities and back my goals 100 percent. Now, I critically analyze constructive feedback to determine if it pertains to me. I consider if I need to tweak something, or if this is another hater or doubter trying to stand in my way. I don’t argue with haters and doubters. I just smile and allow them to remain in their negative comfort zone. Time is not promised, and I prefer to spend mine creating, progressing, and backing me!
Guard Your Gems
You can achieve success, even if others cannot imagine or understand what you desire. Your gems are unique special blessing from God. Blessings placed inside of you are yours to understand, love, appreciate, nurture, and manifest. Others do not have to understand, believe, or even know about them.
If you are blessed enough to encounter others that do believe in you, perhaps their calling is to support the manifestation of your envisioned creation – and that’s a beautiful thing. Treat them well and reward them fairly.
I want to live in a world where everyone’s value is appreciated – but it starts with us appreciating ourselves.
10 Epic Ways to Back Yourself
Here are 10 ways you can get started on becoming a self-backer. I hope these help you along your journey to unlimited success and abundance.
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“Remember, the only thing worse than the hate and doubt others give us – is the hate and doubt we give ourselves.”
Jessica Tha Goddess
Ways to Back Yourself
- Put action to your ideas NOW – it’s important to strike while the iron is hot or your idea may become irrelevant.
- Have confidence in yourself – even if you don’t, proceed anyway and trust the confidence will come with each sweet victory you achieve.
- Take calculated risks – no risk, no reward, but take smart risks!
- Trust the answers will come – trust that even if you don’t have all the answers now, you will find them along the way and will achieve success.
- Be willing to fail – failing is part of the learning and building process. There is no success in the absence of failure.
- Learn from failure and preserver – the lessons you get from failure will bring you closer and closer to success.
- Be willing to promote yourself – and your brand. If you don’t sell – it’s almost guaranteed that no one will buy. Get comfortable being proud of you in public and in private!
- Stay focused – Refuse to allow anyone to tell you that you cannot achieve the success you desire. Stay focused on what it is you want, visualize your manifestation, and work towards it – let no one stand in your way.
- Write your own cheque – refuse to allow anyone to tell you what you are worth. You must know your worth, and not stop until life gives it to you; even then – keep going!
- Recognize Real – Surround yourself with knowledgeable loyal supporters. If you don’t know something, don’t stop your progress; recruit a team that does know, and that backs you too!
Wise Words to Remember
Consider this quote as you start implementing these ten crucial steps to help you become a self-backer.
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“There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”
Nelson Mandela
There is no honor in playing small. At YevOne we encourage you to tap into your divine self, find your internal gifts, and nurture them so that you can start becoming your best self and living your best life today!
xoxo Jessica Tha Goddess
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